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Dreaming of a Kiss

Kissing’s just about the nicest thing you can dream about. There’s the wake-up guilt of course, that ‘Oh God, am I going to tell him I just kissed someone else?’ feeling that hits you in the morning when you’ve blearily staggered out of your dream. Not that it always is someone else. Sometimes it’s him. But it could be anyone: sometimes it’s someone famous; maybe it’s a colleague or an old flame... and sometimes it isn’t anyone real at all: it’s someone your subconscious has invented especially for the purpose. Always, it’s bliss. The anticipation, the kiss, everything: it’s a film kind of kiss, the kind that can never happen in real life. It’s ultra-heightened and ultra-gorgeous and waking up is never welcome.

Sometimes I wake up to the realisation that I’ve just kissed someone I would never dream (if you’ll excuse the expression) of kissing in real life.  I’ll feel mortified, embarrassed, ashamed. I once dreamt I‘d kissed a colleague (not in my current job, just so we’re clear) and it was a while before I stopped feeling awkward around him at work.

This makes it sound like it happens to me all the time. It doesn’t. Maybe once every six months or so I’ll get a dream like this. And I love them. Sometimes I tell Dave and sometimes I don’t, but I’ve come to accept that it’s an ordinary part of dream life that has little (if any) bearing on your actual desires. You can’t feel guilty about dreams like this (although sometimes I do). You can’t look forward to them either because you never know when they’re going to happen, but you can bask in their glow the day after. And I do. Oh, I do.

Image by Moni Sertel

Reader Comments (9)


where do you stand on sex dreams? ;)

August 27, 2010 | Unregistered Commenteringrid

I'm with Ingrid :)

I rarely remember my dreams. And when I do, they're usually weird. Kissing isn't weird enough to remember I guess.

August 28, 2010 | Unregistered CommenterTC

There's nothing like the morning after, huh? :)

I actually wrote a post a while back about a dream I had that involved a kiss. Of course, I never actually posted it. So is it still considered a post? :-S

August 31, 2010 | Unregistered CommenterBone

Sounds like a complicated emotional twist, but interesting to think about. I don't remember if I've ever been that involved in a dream-kiss, so that it was the main thing I recalled. I tend to be tangled up in where's, and why's and when was that when I first awaken. If I dream something that's a singular event again, perhaps I'll try to focus on JUST the event, next time.

Another good post to read. :)

September 1, 2010 | Unregistered CommenterKatrina

Ingrid & TC: I don't seem to get sex dreams all that often. Either that or I'm repressing them ;)

Bone: Sounds like something for NaBloSoFroDraWe...

Katrina That's interesting - I guess I must be a very event-oriented dreamer. I tend to get the content first and then the whens, wheres and whys come later - if at all. And thank you :)

September 1, 2010 | Registered CommenterJ Adamthwaite

I sometimes have dream kisses. They are nice. I feel all glowy the day after.

September 2, 2010 | Unregistered CommenterSylvia

Me too. It's quite amazing how powerful dreams can be.

September 11, 2010 | Registered CommenterJ Adamthwaite

Sometimes you don't tell me, eh?


That's funny cos sometimes all I ever seem to be doing is being told about your dreams.



September 18, 2010 | Unregistered CommenterDave


September 19, 2010 | Registered CommenterJ Adamthwaite

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