From the Living Room - Comments

J Adamthwaite comments on Hiatus

J Adamthwaite — Thu, 06 Dec 2012 19:12:39 +0000

To be fair, it stood a long while of neglect before I decided to put up the closed sign!

Bone comments on Hiatus

Bone — Thu, 06 Dec 2012 17:38:07 +0000

Oh, so you're supposed to close a blog when you neglect it? No one told me! :)

I'm kidding. I'm off to visit FWM.

Bone comments on Hiatus

Bone — Thu, 06 Dec 2012 17:37:30 +0000

Oh, so you're supposed to close a blog when you neglect it? No one told me! :)

I'm kidding. I'm off to visit FWM.

J Adamthwaite comments on The Retreat and Beyond

J Adamthwaite — Mon, 29 Oct 2012 15:38:58 +0000

I could also be justifying my procrastination, of course ;)

Bone comments on The Retreat and Beyond

Bone — Fri, 28 Sep 2012 14:41:57 +0000

sometimes allowing my mind to wander – which is, I think, just as valuable.

Hmm, good point! That's something I hadn't really thought about, but now that I do, I think that is very important.

J Adamthwaite comments on Choosing to Stay Childless

J Adamthwaite — Fri, 17 Aug 2012 16:46:47 +0000

Hi Martha. That's true - every opinion has a judgement come at it from one direction or another. And yes, I agree that writing skills are separate. Experience is essential, but what field that experience is in is totally open.

m comments on Choosing to Stay Childless

Fri, 17 Aug 2012 00:08:32 +0000

Everyone follows their own path, and folks will have their opinions either way. Parents will be judged as much as the childless -- whether they have only one child (why?), two or three (ah, you've had enough now), or twelve (are you mental?); people will judge, opine... Plus most childrearing steps come under judgement -- from breastfeeding to immunisation to diet to education... the list is endless and the opinions are all different.
As regards writing, writing skill is separate. Perhaps we write better for experience but we live our lives, experiencing events, whatever we decide.

J Adamthwaite comments on Choosing to Stay Childless

J Adamthwaite — Thu, 16 Aug 2012 13:56:05 +0000

Thank you :)

Awkward, yes, and that is definitely something that affects men too - but you're right; it seems to be much more acceptable for men to joke about this kind of thing. I imagine it's irritating, but it doesn't seem to carry the same judgement.

Bone comments on Choosing to Stay Childless

Bone — Wed, 15 Aug 2012 18:04:18 +0000

Excellent post, Jenny. I wish everyone who feels pressured to have children could read it.

I feel awkward even being unmarried sometimes. But I know as a guy, I'm much more likely to get a "Smart man" or "Hold out as long as you can" in jest, rather than the judgment and incredulity, as you put it, women get.

J Adamthwaite comments on Choosing to Stay Childless

J Adamthwaite — Fri, 10 Aug 2012 16:53:36 +0000

You might have hit on something there - perhaps I feel like I'm in more of a minority than I am because of where I work. I come into contact with a lot of mothers. Most of the women I work with are mothers or aim to become them at some point and obviously, working in a school, I see a lot of parents anyway.

You're right about the pressure too. I know a lot of young married women who say that after their wedding, they were being barraged with questions about when they were planning on having kids.

Men, whatever their feelings on the matter, are subject to much less pressure.